I'm sure I've b*tched about this before but the need has arisen again.
Just because some folks have children and Mr. M and I have been married for over 2 years now they feel it necessary to ask (not him of course, just me) when we plan on having children. And sometimes this question comes from people (mostly ladies, of course) that have already asked me this ridiculous question. I use a standard "if it happens it happens..."
But what if...
What if we really don't want any?
Or what if we're unable to have any?
What if?
Lord knows you can't say one of the above cause then you get more questions. So regardless, the standard is what I use.
Stop asking already!
~ Wolf Lover Girl
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I hear ya! We get the same thing. Mostly from Marco and his family. I usually tell them the same thing. Or I toss out the "I know my last name is spanish but that doesn't mean I want 100 kids!" Depends on the mood I'm in at the moment.
"Z"
Why can't people just keep their stupid thoughts to themselves? It's not like some substantial part of THEIR lives is riding on whether YOU have kids or not! When did this become an appropriate topic of conversation, anyway?
I think this question has been asked from the beginning of time and really it is no one else’s business but you and your husband’s.
Perhaps you could answer them with a question.
Why do you want to know?
Tell them the cold hard truth: we're felons and have been ordered NOT to breed...hahahahahahaha!
QP - you weren't supposed to share that secret!! ;-)
Great idea though.
~ Wolf Lover Girl
15 years of marriage and a hysterectomy later, people are still asking me when I am going to have children, telling me that I can still have children, looking at me with pity when I say I don't have children.
Uh, hello? I'm past 40, old enough to be a grandmother without having been a teenage bride, and I never wanted kids to begin with, even if I hadn't been infertile, not that it's any of your business!
Urgh, I feel your pain. I think kids are great and if you want them, great, but that's a personal decision and nobody's business but yours and your partners. Frankly I'm just as happy doing my bit not to add to the population explosion.
And the other one I love is how people automatically presume that because you don't have kids, you don't like kids. My husband and I volunteered as a Big Couple for Big Bros/Sisters for years, and we like kids just fine. We just don't want any of our own!
While we're at it, I get irate when people imply that my life is never going to be as fulfilled or meaningful as it might be if only I'd had kids. Oh puh-lease... I'm plenty happy and I don't need to give birth to a baby to feel satisfied with my existence. Yeesh! And no, frankly there is nothing wrong with me just because my husband and I never spawned little ones. Oy!
I love Queen Paula's suggestion. I think I am going to use it myself. Like I said, I feel your pain... I figure when I'm 50, everyone will stop asking if I have kids and ask if I have grandkids! It will never end!
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